Why write your own Vows
To me, writing your own vows takes your ceremony to a whole other level. This is your marriage, your story, your special moment sharing with one another why you are making this commitment and why you want this person by your side no matter what! Because your life with them in it is something amazing and wonderful that you couldn’t imagine this journey with anyone else.
The love that connects you with one another is unique and different to anyone else’s because it is something that only the two of you share. The moment when you choose to say these vows, whether you have 100 people watching or none, is a moment when only the two of you should exist. You are telling this amazing person, standing in front of you, exactly how much they mean to you as if you were sitting on your favourite couch sharing some popcorn and having a conversation that is all about you two. Those conversations that started with ‘when we’ or ‘someday or somehow’, all those promises and dreams shared during car drives and late night talks have all lead you to this moment.
This is not Google or Pinterest’s time to shine and write your vows for you! Trust me, Google will no doubt be getting a work out from your bridal party with the speeches. Of course it is ok to do some research if you feel the need and get some inspiration if you are unsure of where to start or how to say it, but the best words are those spoken from the heart. As cliché as it may sound, something like “I love that you have the local fish and chip shop on speed dial when I come home from a day of fishing with an empty esky” to “I love that you support me in all my crazy ideas and dreams. That you are always there to give me a big kiss and cuddle and tell me that everything is going to be ok”, are so personal and touching for your partner in crime because it is that connection that you get each other perfectly and you know each other’s quirky and weird ways.
No matter who we are, when you find that special someone it just feels right because your crazy and their crazy perfectly align and together you share this crazy unique love in this crazy world.
In Australia there are the standard and necessary legal vows that you must say or words to that effect, meaning you can edit them a little as long as it means the same thing and you keep the essentials like names and that you’re taking each other as husband and wife, but aside from these the vow world is your oyster.
The groom must say to the bride, “I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, [Groom’s full name], take thee, [Bride’s full name], to be my lawful wedded wife”.
The bride must also say to the groom, “I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, [Bride’s full name], take thee, [Groom’s full name], to be my lawful wedded husband”.
My tips for writing your own vows are below. In the end, don’t stress because this is not meant to be stressful, this is a moment shared between you and your bestie, a heart to heart about why you want to continue to have awesome and fun adventures with them by your side.
- Be honest
- Use your lingo, don’t try to jazz them up with words that are not you. Write them exactly as you would be saying them in your normal conversation over your Sunday morning coffee date.
- There is no rule on how long or short they need to be, say what you want to say and that will be just right.
- Remember this amazing person standing in front of you knows you better that anyone and even better than you sometimes! You don’t have to impress them because they are already your biggest cheerleader.
Happy vow writing! Remember, your celebrant is always available for a chat over a coffee or two with some yummy sweet treats such as lemon meringue pie or caramel slice to assist with inspiration…well, that’s me, but I’m sure if I’m not your celebrant the one you choose will be just as awesome.